It is important to know that not everyday is the same. We don’t always feel good, we don’t always feel confident and we don’t always know what is going to happen next. Relationships, for example, are always full of uncertainties because we get nervous and we keep asking questions like; Does he want to commit to me? Does he still like me? Should I just quit this relationship?
All these questions can affect you personally and without realising, you can feel insecure in your relationship.We all have insecurities whether finances, materials, physical or others, but managing them is a key component for a happy, healthy and successful relationship. To overcome insecurity in your relationship, here are few tips to follow.
Don’t judge your current relationship based on past relationship
Just because your past girlfriend/ boyfriend cheated on you doesn’t mean the current one will cheat on you. You really do not have to make the current pay for the deeds of the past, and the beautiful thing about relationships is that you get to start afresh.
Don’t confuse imagination with reality
It is normal to imagine some situations in the relationship, but you should not expect that everything will become reality. The best way to resolve this is to encourage open and honest conversations from the beginning when things are good. Don’t let your mind trick you.
Once you ask, don’t keep asking
You don’t have to keep pestering your partner over the same question. This can become tiring for your partner. Once you ask twice, it’s okay to trust the answer.
Once you reach the point where you sneak to check your partner’s messages, emails or missed calls, then, there is a problem. This is because you will never trust them. Also, if you do that, you will find something where you will misread and turn into an issue. So, don’t start because once you start, you won’t stop.
Relationships are supposed to feel good
Of course, relationships are supposed to make you happy and not sad. You are supposed to be better when you are with the person. When you feel better, there won’t be chances for insecurities.
Therefore, if you want to eliminate insecurities in your relationship, you need to eliminate your insecurities first. This is because insecurity starts within.
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